Manipulation is an emotionally unhealthy psychological strategy used by people who are incapable of asking for what they want and need in a direct way. People who are trying to manipulate others are trying to control others,” says Sharie Stines, a California-based therapist who specializes in abuse and toxic relationships.
From a salesman to a toxic partner, manipulation does exists. In order to rise, one must learn to point it out and immediately put a stop on it.
Here are a few points which arise in one's mind when an individual is being manipulated. Do the manipulation check!
1. Feeling of being bullied
2. Unnecessary fear, feel of obligation or guilt while doing something.
3. Putting someone's decisions for you on top of yours.
4. Questioning yourself.
5. Feeling you owe a favor and have to return it.
6. Foot-in-the-door technique : starting with small requests which then leads to big ones.
7. Door-in-the-foot technique : starting with big request, having it rejected, to finally make a smaller one.
If any of the points mentioned above seems true to you in instances where it shouldn't had been, it's time you say STOP!
1. If you think you're in a toxic relationship, call it off. If you're experiencing abusive relationship, use local helplines or support groups and find a way out immediately.
2. For other cases, just observe. Listen to everyone, but make your unique decision, free of any plagiarism.
3. If you have been successful in noting the people who manipulate you, start making boundaries.
4. Refrain at first glance. This technique usually helps you if you're making investments in your business. Hold the purchase if you can and think about the deal. Chances are you'll get better ideas.
Share with people you think are being manipulated. Help them and do your part to help your loved ones.
Comments